Preps for the Big Day

In 4 days i will loose the tag of a Bachelor, preparations are in full swing for the D day. Ever since Monday last i have been going around inviting people, things now are in the advanced stage where arrangements are being finalized and confirmed. The final touches and checks are being made. Wednesday should see the "Full Ahead" signal and final dash to the ocassion.

Amid all this hectic, crazy (mis)adventure what’s extremely difficult is to maintain ones cool. There are ten different people advising you and some telling you what needs to be done. Worse is when they expect you to 'do as advised' and want their own way through. I feel like a punching bag where everyone from both parties pouncing on me and expect me to smile and say " My pleasure". Seriously! Since past so many days i am picking up arguments left right center and am seeing my self being trodden over like a doormat. Nobody listens to me and my opinions is never considered. A game we used to play as children comes to my mind, where each player had to hid the center top with ones top point and make it fling. I feel like the center top! What the bloddy heck. On second thoughts ....i should'nt be having second thoughts though still i wish i could skip this rigmarole and simply be at peace instead of these pieces.

Well... Que sera sera.....how can i survive the remaining 4 days is to be seen.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~some marriage quotes~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

"A happy man marries the girl he loves; a happier man loves the girl he
marries." - anonymous quote


"Marriage is not a ritual or an end. It is a long, intricate, intimate dance together and nothing matters more than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner." - Amy Bloom

"For I've been born and I've been wed. All of man's peril comes of bed." - C.H. Webb, Dum Vivimus Vigilemus

"It is not from reason and prudence that people marry, but from inclination." - Samuel Johnson

"No man is truly married until he understands every word his wife is NOT saying." - unknown 

"We don't love qualities, we love persons; sometimes by reason of their defects as well as of their qualities." - Jacques Maritain

"Marriage is one of the few institutions that allow a man to do as his wife pleases." - Milton Berle

"The people people have for friends
Your common sense appall
But the people people marry
Are the queerest folk of all."
- Charlotte Perkins Gilman

"A happy home is one in which each spouse grants the possibility that the other may be right, though neither believes it." - Don Fraser

"Oh, how we danced on the night we were wed
We vowed our true love though a word wasn't said
The world was in bloom, there were stars in the skies
Except for the few that were there in your eyes.
The night seemed to fade into blossoming dawn
The sun shone anew but the dance lingered on
Could we but relive that sweet moment sublime
We'd find that our love is unaltered by time."
- lyrics to "The Anniversary Waltz," composed by Dubin/Frankl


Strike an average between what a woman thinks of her husband a month before she marries him and what she thinks of him a year afterward, and you will have the truth about him. ~H.L. Mencken, A Book of Burlesques, 1916

The bonds of matrimony are like any other bonds - they mature slowly. ~Peter De Vries

Final Day of Invitations

Today was the last day of going around inviting people, friends and relatives for my Marriage 10 days later. Ever since Monday i have been saying "16th is the reception at Gorai, Please do come". Today Morning Mom, Dad and Myself made a beeline for Thane and formally Invited Andrew Mama. Thereafter by 1230 i dropped in at Waynes and Invited his parents and then scooted to invited Junior college Teachers. Miss Rekha, Lata, Mitra, Manisha and Rita were so happy seeing me (I so gleeful that they recognised me at first sight). Then by 1330 I visited a place in Interface to put a face to a name (happy  faces there too). later after some shopping in D-Mart i went to Mhada (malvani) to invite a old so called friend. Thank God i didnt meet him but got his latest number and messaged him.

By 1630 I was home and then 2 hours later i went to Uttan to invite my school friends. Oooooooo How delighted, suprised, thrilled and joyous they were to see me and that too inviting! Looks like they have been waiting for my Invitation all this while (some for years). This day is the best of days in and i would like to reiterate  " there's no other relationship in the world like Friendship!!!

Three Cheers to Friendship!!!

Six Honest Serving Men

I keep six honest serving-men
(They taught me all I knew);
Their names are What and Why and When
And How and Where and Who.
I send them over land and sea,
I send them east and west;
But after they have worked for me,
I give them all a rest.

I let them rest from nine till five,
For I am busy then,
As well as breakfast, lunch, and tea,
For they are hungry men.
But different folk have different views;
I know a person small—
She keeps ten million serving-men,
Who get no rest at all!

She sends'em abroad on her own affairs,
From the second she opens her eyes—
One million Hows, two million Where’s,
And seven million Whys!

----------Rudyard Kipling

Friends from olden times

Today i traveled back in time to my school days, ahh those fun filled wonderful days, how can one ever forger them. I had gone to the beach looking for sand and while returning though of dropping in at malisa's. On the way i happened to meet Christbell, Kuku as she is commonly known was a year senior in school.
We went to the same tution class and she always handed her text books down to  me. After she passed out of school i took tutions from her for matriculation exzams. Our families knew each other and we were good friends. I can't forget the tutions time spent at her house. They were so much fun and eventful.
Christabell was on her veranda with her little one. I helloed her and asked how shes doing. She's hasn't changed much after getting married to her long time boyfriend. While i was inquiring about her well being, beautiful memories of those old days flashed back. I was stumped when She said that i need to get married now.
I told her that she wont be disappointed and that i would let her know when the day arrives.

Do i Look matured ?

After a couple of  minutes i took her leave and called on Malisa. As usual i had a candid tete-a-tete and discussed a long list of preparations for the big day. Malisa was also going through difficult times and felt relieved talking to me.I was in a disheveled look and she complimented saying that i looked matured now!
My uncut long hair and prominent stubble probably did the trick but i liked how my day was progressing. An hour Later i went to buy bread from a nearby bakery hen i bumped into another school friend Priya. Priya and me were classmates and took tutions from christabell together. We spoke at length reliving our olden days.
The fun time we had, jokes we made and the rukus we created.....ooooo how incredible those days were.Nobody can forget Ashwin and malaika and the fights we had and then laughing our heads off and then the punishments we got and laughing still!We could go on and on and the stories would never end. I returned home but those thoughts still continued running through my head.

Betrothed

The Nineteenth day of August 2012 is a day that will remain etched in Golden letters thought my Life. I got Engaged to be married to Snehal Pereira at a small function attended by close relatives and friends from both sides. After a short prayer blessing us both we exchanged rings as a token of our vow to get married in the near future.

When Things Go Wrong

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit-
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a fellow turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow -
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man;
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor's cup;
And he learned too late when the night came down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out -
The silver tint in the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It might be near when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit -
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.

                                                                                                .....Unknown

I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.......Michael Jordan

Are you the one

Are you the one 

who will hold my hand

who will be my lodestar

on the land

when all the lights have gone.

Are you the one

who will stand by me

through thick and thin

putting smiles and making things

painting rainbows in the sky

wiping tear-drops when I cry

sticking together like permanent glue

being oh-so true.

You must be the one

else i would never feel this way

when i loose myself in

your enchanting words, arms or eyes

your body's warmth

lighting up the fire of my desire

making hours whiz past

like seconds as time flies

Are you the one

whom I can really call my own

triumphantly feeling

that life’s battle 

I have won.

Great Expectations

"What are your expectations?" I asked her. "I don’t know" she replied. Two days later after exchanging fifty first messages we met. Later that day i begun to think what mine were.

This is nothing that i can exchange or throw away if i don’t like. I was in a dilemma. Humans have a free will which sometimes is a obstacle to reality. I have looked high and low for past 3 years by which time i had my expectations refined and clear. However when the moment of truth came, everything happened as willed by God. To make short of a long tale, i will just say that i prayed and my supplications were heard! That's how i know this is from Above due to which me having second thoughts doesn’t hold water.  He knows my future hence He knows what’s the best for me and i want His will to be fulfilled in my life. Therefore i Bow down to his will though the world may call be a fool. Jesus give me whatever i need to be what it takes to be the best. My expectations go out of the window!

I don't know about tomorrow;
I just live from day to day.
I don't borrow from it's sunshine
For it's skies may turn to grey.
I don't worry o'er the future,
For I know what Jesus said.
And today I'll walk beside Him,
For He knows what is ahead.

Many things about tomorrow
I don't seem to understand
But I know who holds tomorrow
And I know who holds my hand.

Every step is getting brighter
As the golden stairs I climb;
Every burden's getting lighter,
Every cloud is silver-lined.
There the sun is always shining,
There no tear will dim the eye;
At the ending of the rainbow
Where the mountains touch the sky.

I don't know about tomorrow;
It may bring me poverty.
But the one who feeds the sparrow,
Is the one who stands by me.
And the path that is my portion
May be through the flame or flood;
But His presence goes before me
And I'm covered with His blood.

The Bridge Builder

An old man going a lone highway,

Came, at the evening cold and gray,

To a chasm vast and deep and wide.

Through which was flowing a sullen tide

The old man crossed in the twilight dim,

The sullen stream had no fear for him;

But he turned when safe on the other side

And built a bridge to span the tide.

“Old man,” said a fellow pilgrim near,

“You are wasting your strength with building here;

Your journey will end with the ending day,

You never again will pass this way;

You’ve crossed the chasm, deep and wide,

Why build this bridge at evening tide?”

The builder lifted his old gray head;

“Good friend, in the path I have come,” he said,

“There followed after me to-day

A youth whose feet must pass this way.

This chasm that has been as naught to me

To that fair-haired youth may a pitfall be;

He, too, must cross in the twilight dim;

Good friend, I am building this bridge for him!”

 

.......Will Allen Dromgoole